Are you a high-achiever who still doesn’t trust your ability to make decisions? Are you afraid to speak up in meetings because you’re afraid everyone will realize that you don’t know what you’re talking about?
Many accomplished women–including Chrystal’s own employees and clients—suffer from a form of self sabotage called Imposter Syndrome, which is when we doubt our talents and abilities, and don’t believe we deserve our success, despite an abundance of external evidence. Many women are so consumed with moving from one achievement to the next that they don’t stop to celebrate their wins. This is the same energy that drives Imposter Syndrome. As long as we keep seeking validation outside of ourselves through praise and achievement, we’ll never fill that inner hole of self-doubt.
Instead, we must learn to meet our own needs, and the trick to beating Imposter Syndrome is not by repeating a bunch of rote affirmations in the mirror, but by looking inward. On today’s episode, Chrystal shares the two key questions you must ask yourself to shift out of the imposter mindset!
- “One big part of self sabotage can be imposter syndrome. And I feel like so many high achieving women experience this, whether it be ongoing or at one time or another.” (2:23 | Chrystal)
- “There’s a disconnect. It’s an incongruence between your conscious and your subconscious, because consciously, of course, you think, ‘Okay, I do this, I’ve done this, I’ve done that. I know I’m good at what I do.’ And yet it still creeps up at times. So where does it come from?” (9:59 | Chrystal)
- “Oftentimes, at the root, we’re hustling for our worth. We want to feel worthy. And if only I do enough, then maybe I’ll be enough. And so with impostor syndrome this is a self sabotage tactic.” (13:06 | Chrystal)
- “You’re on your way to doing the thing or going where you want to go. And then that doubt creeps in… so we don’t take the chance. We don’t apply for the position, start the business, invest in the thing, or make the leap. Because we’re telling ourselves that we’re not good enough.” (13:25 | Chrystal)
- “It’s a game changer. That’s what shifts. That’s what creates all the results. That’s literally what my entire coaching business is built upon, is helping my clients meet their own needs, because we keep trying to meet them externally.” (16:55 | Chrystal)
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