In this episode of the Embodied Baddie podcast, we take a deep dive into the often tangled and complicated relationship between self-worth and accomplishments. In today’s high-performance culture, it’s all too common for individuals to equate their self-worth with their achievements. However, as we explore in this episode, this mindset can be perilous and detrimental to one’s mental health and overall sense of well-being.
Our discussion is sparked by a question from a participant in the Smashing Self-Sabotage mini course, and it opens up a profound conversation about the inherent worthiness of each individual. We explore the concept of inherent worthiness and how it differs from the value we often place on our achievements. The idea is that our worthiness is innate, it is not something we earn or acquire through our accomplishments.
To illustrate this concept, we create an imaginary character named Sarah. Sarah is highly successful in her business endeavors, achieving every goal she sets. However, her actions and behavior towards others reveal a lack of empathy and kindness. Despite her accomplishments, Sarah’s behavior demonstrates that achievements alone do not define one’s worthiness.
The discussion then delves into the mindset of business owners and the misconception that they are selling themselves. In reality, what they are selling is a transformation, a product or service that can bring about a change in their clients’ lives. Their worth as individuals is not tied to the success or failure of their business.
Achievements, we argue, are symbols of commitment, celebration, and evidence of what you can achieve, not a measure of your worth. The danger lies in equating success with worthiness, a trap that can lead to a constant need for validation and an inability to celebrate and enjoy accomplishments for what they truly are.
This episode serves as a reminder to everyone that they are inherently worthy. This worthiness is not tied to achievements, accomplishments, or external validation. It’s a part of who we are, as inseparable as our humanity.
In the end, it’s not about proving anything to anyone or ourselves. It’s about recognizing our inherent worthiness and learning to celebrate our accomplishments for what they are, not for what they say about our worth. It’s about learning to validate ourselves, meet our own needs, and not relying on external validation to fill our self-worth piggy bank.
In conclusion, the goal is to create a separation between our accomplishments and our worthiness. By doing so, we can free ourselves from the pressures of equating success with worth, and instead, recognize our inherent worthiness. In this way, we can find true freedom and happiness, not in what we do or achieve, but in who we are as individuals.
- “Your worthiness is innate. Everyone’s worthy, everyone’s born worthy.” (3:56 | Chrystal)
- “So you could smash every goal, you could achieve everything that you ever dreamed of, you could win, win, win, win, win in every arena, sports, business, whatever, and it doesn’t make you any more or less worthy.” (7:00 | Chrystal)
- “We are all worthy inherently and it might just take some time to believe that and to feel that and to know that that you don’t have to do anything.”(11:18 | Chrystal)
- “I love and appreciate when I see women doing badass shit. I love it, but it doesn’t make you any more or less worthy period.”(15:53 | Chrystal)
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